Great Article!

Just sharing some reads from across the net.I found this to be awesome and very candid.We can be know-it-alls at times , and in a time where we allow our impatience make us feel that "delay means denial", it s good to know that wisdom is to always precede choices for a spouse.Don't settle.

10 Men Christian Women Should Never Marry

My wife and I raised four daughters—without shotguns in the house!—and three of them have already married. We love our sons-in-law, and it’s obvious God handpicked each of them to match our daughters’ temperaments and personality.

I have always believed God is in the matchmaking business. If He can do it for my daughters, He can do it for you.

Today I have several single female friends who would very much like to find the right guy. Some tell me the pickings are slim at their church, so they have ventured into the world of online dating. Others have thrown up their hands in despair, wondering if there are any decent Christian guys left anywhere. They’ve begun to wonder if they should lower their standards in order to find a mate.

My advice stands: Don't settle for less than God's best. Too many Christian women today have ended up with an Ishmael because impatience pushed them into an unhappy marriage. Please take my fatherly advice: You are much better off single than with the wrong guy!

Speaking of “wrong guys,” here are the top 10 men you should avoid when looking for a husband:

1. The unbeliever. Please write 2 Corinthians 6:14 on a Post-it note and tack it on your computer at work. It says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?” (NASB). This is not an outdated religious rule. It is the Word of God for you today.

Don’t allow a man’s charm, looks or financial success (or his willingness to go to church with you) push you to compromise what you know is right. “Missionary dating” is never a wise strategy. If the guy is not a born-again Christian, scratch him off your list. He’s not right for you. I’ve yet to meet a Christian woman who didn’t regret marrying an unbeliever.

2. The liar. If you discover that the man you are dating has lied to you about his past or that he’s always covering his tracks to hide his secrets from you, run for the nearest exit. Marriage must be built on a foundation of trust. If he can’t be truthful, break up now before he bamboozles you with an even bigger deception.

3. The playboy. I wish I could say that if you meet a nice guy at church, you can assume he’s living in sexual purity. But that’s not the case today. I’ve heard horror stories about single guys who serve on the worship team on Sunday but act like Casanovas during the week. If you marry a guy who was sleeping around before your wedding, you can be sure he will be sleeping around after your wedding.

4. The deadbeat. There are many solid Christian men who experienced marital failure years ago. Since their divorce, they have experienced the Holy Spirit’s restoration, and now they want to remarry. Second marriages can be very happy. But if you find out that the man you are dating hasn’t been caring for his children from a previous marriage, you have just exposed a fatal flaw. Any man who will not pay for his past mistakes or support children from a previous marriage is not going to treat you responsibly.

5. The addict. Churchgoing men who have addictions to alcohol or drugs have learned to hide their problems—but you don’t want to wait until your honeymoon to find out that he’s a boozer. Never marry a man who refuses to get help for his addiction. Insist that he get professional help and walk away. And don’t get into a codependent relationship in which he claims he needs you to stay sober. You can’t fix him.

6. The bum. I have a female friend who realized after she married her boyfriend that he had no plans to find steady work. He had devised a great strategy: He stayed home all day and played video games while his professional wife worked and paid all the bills. The apostle Paul told the Thessalonians, “If anyone is not willing to work, then he is not to eat, either” (2 Thess. 3:10). The same rule applies here: If a man is not willing to work, he doesn’t deserve to marry you.

7. The narcissist. I sincerely hope you can find a guy who is handsome. But be careful: If your boyfriend spends six hours a day at the gym and regularly posts closeups of his biceps on Facebook, you have a problem. Do not fall for a self-absorbed guy. He might be cute, but a man who is infatuated with his appearance and his own needs will never be able to love you sacrificially, like Christ loves the church (Eph. 5:25). The man who is always looking at himself in the mirror will never notice you.

8. The abuser. Men with abusive tendencies can’t control their anger when it boils over. If the guy you are dating has a tendency to fly off the handle, either at you or others, don’t be tempted to rationalize his behavior. He has a problem, and if you marry him you will have to navigate his minefield every day to avoid triggering another outburst. Angry men hurt women—verbally and sometimes physically. Find a man who is gentle.

9. The man-child. Call me old-fashioned, but I’m suspicious of a guy who still lives with his parents at age 35. If his mother is still doing his cooking, cleaning and ironing at that age, you can be sure he’s stuck in an emotional time warp. You are asking for trouble if you think you can be a wife to a guy who hasn’t grown up. Back away and, as a friend, encourage him to find a mentor who can help him mature.

10. The control freak. Some Christian guys today believe marriage is about male superiority. They may quote Scripture and sound super-spiritual, but behind the façade of husbandly authority is deep insecurity and pride that can morph into spiritual abuse. First Peter 3:7 commands husbands to treat their wives as equals. If the man you are dating talks down to you, makes demeaning comments about women or seems to squelch your spiritual gifts, back away now. He is on a power trip. Women who marry religious control freaks often end up in a nightmare of depression.

If you are a woman of God, don’t sell your spiritual birthright by marrying a guy who doesn’t deserve you. Your smartest decision in life is to wait for a man who is sold out to Jesus.

SOURCE :(http://www.charismamag.com/blogs/fire-in-my-bones/19757-10-men-christian-women-should-never-marry)

Stolen things always lose their sparkle

After perusing, a local convenient store for what felt like forever, a lil' girl walked past a an aisle full

 of brightly colored toys and games.

Every one of them seemed to make a sound because someone had already been there and 

 pressed the oh so 

irresistible "try me " buttons.She didn't care though,it all sounded like a symphony of fun calling 

her name.

She stared down the aisle and locked in on a shiny glittery ball.

Lil' Girl :" I want that ball daddy"

Daddy: " No sweetie we only came here for one thing"

Lil Girl: "But daaaaaaaaa-deeeee, it's so so so pretty!Please?" 

Daddy: looking in the adjacent aisle for the one item he came for, he said " No sweetie"

Lil Girl: "But look at it, it is everything I want.I won't ask for anything else.I promise,just let me 

get that ball. I've been a good girl.

Her father focused on the search didn't reply back.

The lil' girl tiptoed into the aisle ,grabbed the ball with her little heart beating through her chest,

 and stuffed it in her skirt.

She skipped back to her father and was eerily quiet.

Daddy: "let's go we are done here".They headed to the register.

The lil' girl was so high off of the adrenaline of stealing that ball ,that she hadn't noticed that her

 skipping made it light up in her skirt.

He father looked down at her and asked,"what have you done?"

She looked up at him with tears in her eyes and said" I just wanted the ball."

Her father lovingly kneeled down to face her and explained that stealing was never an option.

He lowered the shopping basket that he was holding and showed her it's contents.

Inside was the exact same ball she wanted ,only it was bigger and more beautiful.

He had already picked it up for her when they entered the store and wanted to surprise her

with it at the right time.She looked at the ball in the cart and the ball in her hand.All of a sudden

 it wasn't so pretty anymore."

The WAIT

There is an anxiety in patience if you wait the wrong way.Sounds contradictory right?

What' could be bad about patience?It's not about the wait,it's about HOW we wait.For  a long time I used to think that I was the most patient person ever.Partially because people used to always look at me in unbearable circumstances and say: "You are so patient,I would have freaked out!".

Meanwhile ,in my mind,I'm going completely OFF, I  mean bonkers ya'll !

I had the appearance of patience at times ,but my insides were exploding!!

That's where a lot of us are or were ,"I'm waiting Lord", but in the mean time between time, jealousy rots us to the core and we can't have conversations with people.Pride causes us to develop an independence that looks like genuine busyness but it's a busy mess.When did God call us to be OVERLY occupied so that we don't think about being single?Or when we get so upset at God that we ARE waiting that we even give a lil' away here and there, pretending that it's under control because we know we have to give the relationship or "friend" up anyway?Ouch.

Im waiting for what GOD has for ME.It's incomparable.Impatience is normal.It's human.No one is saying that we have to be super human.We can read all of the books in the "singles " section cover to cover.Go to EVERY function dressed like a porcelain doll,make the mad dash to the alter call for singles for the trillionth time, and still. have. to .wait.
"What in the world Lord?Can I please know how much longer I have?Help a sista out! 2 years? 3 years?I need to be busy until then." SILENCE is all we get.

OK so I'm convinced that no one has a remedy for that feeling but God.I can tell you that while I was waiting, there were things going on around me that I had new responses to.I come from a LOOOONG line of independent,"I run my house" I don't need a man,single mothers.They are strong willed, and have no problem with doing anything for themselves and barely cry. The year before I met my husband,I remember crying a lot.I remember having to be honest about my feelings with people in a way I have NEVER done before.I could feel God softening my heart and I was a little scared.I remember sitting in my bed touching my face and going,"I'm crying right now".Lol . Sounds ridiculous I know, but it was happening.I also started to have dreams. Very long and detail oriented dreams.One particular dream,God revealed to me the contents of my heart. One was discontentment.I prided myself on my ability to not be jealous of other people.I believe that what GOD has for me is for me and no one else could have it, but, discontentment doesn't always have the element of jealousy,it's actually the inability to be still.Both of these elements affect patience.
My tough exterior , hardened my interior so I never said what I felt or if I did it was brash.I'm waiting but rotting away.Discontentment had me not satisfied with the now.Not being still.Drive by praying and all. I got to the point where I understood that the wait wasn't a punishment, but on the contrary and assignment in itself.A test for some.Ask God what to do while you wait.Busy-ness is not the cure.

How are you waiting?The story above is the perfect visualization of what it's like when we make a move without God.It's not what you expected because of HOW you got it.Patience isn't easy.It works character though.

 James 1: 4 "But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing."

Bank on it

When  thinking of the word "account" ,for some , two things may come to mind; a bank or a record.
When I began to think about the two combined I thought about the heart.
I have to give an account .What's in my account? What's in your account? What is accounted for?

Have you ever recalled these things in reference to relationships? 

I have a bank account,actually a few ,each one holds funds that I have earned over time or have saved over time . No matter what ,those accounts represent things I have deposited into them . No one else can access my accounts unless they have the authority to do so.

If and when I need something and it's not there I have to then think about what I did with what I put in there.Accounts erect responsibility,whether you're ready for it or not.
I remember waiting and feeling like everyone one who came past me during that time had some significance.Each time I gave this person my time, they deposited something in me.Whether it was memories of fun , lust, emotional things , the list is long and not all bad.Some relationships taught me maturity,how to vocalize wants and needs,boundaries ,and most of all LOVE.When I say relationships I don't mean all romantic,(anyone can tell you that I am the ,"you are a friend" advocate).Every relationship you have with the opposite sex should not be EMOTIONAL or SEXUAL.Though some may beg to differ,we cannot walk through life allowing people we meet along the way to deposit things into us,because we "don't know where it's going".I do not even give every friend access to my bank account or pin number.I mean really?How much more important is my heart and soul?

Our  hearts and minds act as a bank sometimes, what you put in it will for the most part be what is withdrawn .Sometimes WITH interest.Oh we love interest, it's like a nice surprise when you've been good and responsible,but it's NOT if you've been negligent or ignorant.

How you spend is a direct representation of who you are ,and so is your heart

Hence the fact that the bible states , ".....out of the abundance of the heart , the mouth speaks "- Matthew 12:23 NASB  and , "Watch over your heart with all diligence,
For from it flow the springs of life.."- Proverbs 4:23 NASB

I had to sit and ponder this for real.Who has access to my heart?What is being withdrawn or deposited?
Time is precious,it's what we have and don't have all at once.I was home thinking about the responsibility of guarding the heart.You must create boundaries, it's not about coming off strong and all" I love Jesus he's my husband first back up!"
It's about the time we spend ,and with whom we spend it.Women we are so smart.Most times ....without being judgmental , ok TOO judgmental, (God's still working on me) I could tell a lot about the opposite sex from the first few conversations we had ok the like the FIRST.I am mission minded.Some gripes could purely be personal taste, ie. grammar, you know ...if he writes LiK3 tHiS ,all of the time then its "bye boo" or if he even dresses a certain way.Ladies we have our stuff.Our particulars.
I say all of this to say that being intentional about our hearts is so important.Sometimes we don't give much thought about our heart until it's broken, that's not the time to be attentive.My favorite question is How?

I have a few things that I specifically asked God for in order to make sure I didn't get in my own way.
1-BE HONEST WITH GOD
 A simple profound prayer I learned: "Lord keep me when I don't want to be kept".
Now it's not a magic potion, this means that you are not going to pretend to be superwoman in every circumstance.You're human ,with a libido.He's a man .Alone in a room with attraction, things can happen.Be very real and attentive.Tell God your fears and concerns.He is more in love with you than anyone else could ever be.
"Daddy, I need your help....!"
2-DO NOT BARE ALL ..right away
You can tell a person about you,your likes and dislikes.Apples or oranges,whatever ,but I've noticed that the MORE we divulge the MORE responsibility we place on  that relationship.I can't tell a person on the first date,or first meeting I want a 3 kids and a house.Words have weight and power.There's an expectation.Now be honest of course,but be intentional about the matters of your heart.Divulging too soon can cause damage.
3-YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE
If you do not,do yourself  and  the other person a favor and don't do it.Our 20's-30's are a pivotal state in life.It's where we have entered and left college,in search of self,knee deep in careers or are desperately searching .If you've figured out your purpose and career ,and are balanced ,kudos to you,but a heavy bulk of us are feeling like we are stuck in the twilight zone.It's the early -life crisis.A time where you want to find the real you before you "grow up", you feel like adult hood mad rushed you after 25.I digress.
KNOW who you are,so many times we ignorantly look for definition of self in the eyes of others.It's insanity because we know it never works,but in that moment it's JUST what the doctor ordered. I'm not saying,you need to have it 100% together in order to have great relationships ,but if you KNOW you and have self identity issues.Repeat step 1,be honest with God.Knowing who you are and WHO'S you are ,are the most vital.

How we perceive ourselves a lot of times is a direct reflection of how we will develop relationships.I realized that without God,in the center.The wheel in the middle of the wheel.I cannot make it.I don't have time to waste and, my heart , YOUR heart is precious.

A Romantic with No Outlet

This morning I was very conscious of my single status. Not lonely but longing for the one to shower in my affections. If not handled properly this feeling could incite me to settle for a Mr. Right-Now instead of waiting for my Mr. Right. And at what cost?  It would be like eating a giant bag of chips to satisfy hunger. It may meet the need/want but potentially at the cost of a narrowing waistline and with the higher risk of hypertension. 

As I began my morning devotions, I began to wonder, " Am I a romantic with no outlet?" 

The answer: Not so. 

I may still be waiting for one with whom can exchange Eros with, but my desire to share love and affection can be fulfilled in different ways. I can always direct love and affection to my savior because he already shares it with me constantly. And I have yet to discover all the many ways to share love with others. 

As for the one upon whom I shall continue to wait, I can begin to store up for him tokens of my love and affection to share with him one day. 

I'm determined to bring meaning out of the "meantime" and that includes expressing various types of love for God, others and me. 

How will you show some love today? 

So don’t lose a minute in building on what you’ve been given, complementing your basic faith with good character, spiritual understanding, alert discipline, passionate patience, reverent wonder, warm friendliness, and generous love, each dimension fitting into and developing the others. With these qualities active and growing in your lives, no grass will grow under your feet, no day will pass without its reward as you mature in your experience of our Master Jesus. Without these qualities you can’t see what’s right before you, oblivious that your old sinful life has been wiped off the books. (2 Peter 1:5-9 MSG)

Something Borrowed II

Sharing is caring! That was one of the most important lessons learned in Kindergarten and from Barney (yes, the Purple Dinosaur and I go way back). Even so, there can be a twinge of sorrow when you let certain people borrow. Personally, I have had my share of stingy moments over the years, but I try to be giving, especially when I think of all that God has given to me. Yet, there are those rare occasions when I see someone treating something that I LEANT them as if it is their own, and in my head I'm like, "REALLY?!?"

First of all, I have to assess what annoys me most in a situation like this. It isn't so much that the individual is using the borrowed items. After all, I leant the item(s) for that person's use.  I think the issue for me is when people do not acknowledge that it is something borrowed.  It leads me to question if I will see these items in my possession again. 

On one hand, we are told that when you lend something to someone, treat it as if you will never have that item again. Under this philosophy people are less likely to come to blows over something borrowed and left unreturned. Also, it cautions you to weigh the value of your material possessions before forking it over. But on the other hand, there is the principle of one's word being his or her bond. If you say you are borrowing something, then there is a implied promise of a return. That needs to be honored. Right?

So these internal philosophical debates, always seem to highlight and challenge my spiritual growth. It's like God sets these situations up to just say, "This is something that we need to work on in our relationship." Huh? Whatchumean, Lord? 

I have to remember that I am something borrowed. When I surrendered my life to God I gave him ownership, but there are times when I usurp control over certain areas of my life. I feel God poses the question, "will you return yourself--areas where you have taken control over-- to me or will you continue to steal yourself away from me?" Comeagain…

1Cor. 6:19-20 reads, "Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body." While this scripture is specifically speaking to refraining from sexual immorality, it reminds us that our lives (every aspect of it) have been redeemed by Jesus Christ. 

Ideally, borrowed items should be treated better than the items that we personally own because we should want to return it in the same condition in which we got it if not better. Why? Well for starters, it takes a great deal of trust for someone to lend something out, and that also says a lot about how that individual sees the person that he/she is lending to. The person has also exhibited selflessness in lending his/her possessions to the other, and it wouldn't be right to inconvenience them any further.  Nevertheless, there are times when we get familiar with what is borrowed and no longer take special care of the item. We treat it like it is common, devaluing its worth. 

Are we devaluing our own lives by treating it like it is common? God values us more than we can imagine. His expressions of love, grace and mercy shown to us daily are indications of that.
I recognize that God is trusting me to use my life wisely, and through His guidance, I believe that I can. I'm sure that I will make mistakes, and possibly operate outside of His will at times. But remembering that I am not my own begins the process of returning myself to Him. 

DIS-CON-TENT...

The idolatry of it all...

Put me in a dark room not able to see my hand in front of my face and I could still point to it with my heart .It's so thick, it distracts me from the danger around me and I crave it more than safety .Discontentment.

discon·tentment n.

. Absence of contentment; dissatisfaction.

. A restless longing for better circumstances

I remember sitting in the middle of my bed and thinking about everything in my life in its entirety and feeling so over whelmed and confused all at the same time, like all of my thoughts had been thrown into a juicer called my brain.

I wanted to cry out to God and be like; "Please fix (blank)”,"please help me with my (blank)", God deliver me from (blank) because (blank) is making me coo-coo."  I didn't know what to call it! I was trying to identify what it was.

Anger? Jealousy? Boredom? Depression? Hunger? Lol....God what is this? Tell me what to call it so that I know what you're fixing. Right? I mean the doctor doesn't give you a prescription if you can’t tell him what’s wrong, where does it hurt so he can prescribe something for the dis-ease? What is this so I can be healed?

I mean I wasn't trying to do God's job for Him, not that He needed MY help to tell me what was wrong with me. I just wanted to know what it was as well. If I remember correctly we hadn't, (which really means ME) been speaking regularly. So anyway, I cried out of desperation because I had been feeling so weird. I wanted to move but was stuck, when I moved it did nothing. When I stayed still I felt like I was in whirlwind.

Then I had a dream….and God told me it was “discontentment”. I was like …discontentment? Hmmm where’s that in the bible? You ever have those moments where you feel like you've just gone on and diagnosed yourself? Like you’re that deep and this is all because you watch Iyanla or Oprah the night before or read a devotional that used the same word?Oh...that's just me ..Ok lol. I looked up the definition and I knew it was God.

I was not satisfied. Couldn't sit still. Every green light felt like it was painted with red and I had to stop before I even started. I wanted more from life right then and there but WHAT!? God said:" you're dissatisfied”. He didn’t say you’re being stagnant or complacent but you’re busy being dissatisfied.

An aha moment! Ok God, so what now? Is it because I was single, saved, young and knee deep in ministry?

Was I seeing the full cup as half empty? Having a jaded view of life because lack was louder somewhere? Yes…I wanted to be unavailable. I wanted to stop feeling so yanked. It had caused me to feel devalued and empty. So instead of doing things that were valuable I was just drifting sort of zombie like and ended up back home in my bed full of thoughts and self pity because I wasn't locked into what God wanted or at least it was taking me too long to get there. So my next step was. Lord ease the discontentment.

What does discontentment cause? Idolatry.How are they connected?

Lord why am I STILL single ? Why am I not here or there? Is it my turn yet? Like God has a gym glass basketball team and all of the better athletes have already been picked while you’re still waiting counting all the reasons why you feel like you’re the least. (This only works if you've been there lol…last one picked in gym class).

It was like Israel around the time before Saul and David, they had been asking for a King, as if God wasn't good enough. The lack becomes the idol. They wanted a King so bad that the WANT took the majority.

I run into a lot of women in our generation that have the pressure of relationship on the brain. God when? God why her? God....um it's past the time I intended on waiting. So much so that that desire becomes an idol. God may be blessing all that's around you but you're blinded by the discontentment ,and all that you is where you ARE and where YOU want you to be instead of what God is doing or WANTS to do because you're distracted right there in the moment.

I've never really seen someone thrilled to take a test. I've seen people get up and leave during the test or before it's done because they've given up or were ill prepared. I've seen people who talk and grunt to themselves the entire test. There is something to say about what you're feeling now that has an "other" side to it. A side that will teach you about the wait and how discontentment is a distraction.DIS-TRACK, it’s made to take you off track and miss the focal point of it all.I just know that NOW that I know what it is,I can recognize it again.I had to redirect and refocus.Being intentional about steps and not making excuses for what seems like lack of resources or environmental shifts.A lot of words to say...pass this test.There's purpose in it.

-Ke

"..because I'm scared"

            He enters the train and says "I am an angel of the Lord”. I look up from my game of Candy crush to see a man I've seen before. I recognized his West Indian accent laced with words of scriptures, judgment, wit, and yet obedience. 

Have you ever noticed how people react to the gospel being preached in public? There’s this weirdness….like all of a sudden everyone is antsy. No one makes direct eye contact and if they do, there’s a bit of a sarcastic eye roll. Then you have the Christian listeners who either nod in agreement so he doesn't include them in the sea of other sinners not listening lol , or try to blend in with everyone else sipping their coffee nervously. Some push their ear plugs deeper into their ears as if God doesn't know our heart, but strangely enough it’s like they can still hear the words over the music .Disclaimer: I’m talking about the REAL gospel, NOT the words of an angry man or drunken woman .You know the difference.

Don’t you just love God? I’m not saying that EVERYONE who preaches in the subway is sound, but this man, seemed to be a God send.

So he goes on about how our bodies are NOT our own and how unlike animals we have to give an account. He goes on about the realities of Hell and how hell is a real place. He made his way through the cart with his tattered bible and Jesus fitted cap smiling and delighted about sharing he gospel. I studied the woman next to me who was all fidgety and kept looking down at her phone. It’s like as soon as someone hears the name Jesus something happens...just like His word says.” At the mention of His name…”

So now it’s time for me to exit the train and go about my day and I wondered about the man and the message he had and how and if a soul in that train cart had somehow connected ,and quickly interrupting   my thought “ tsk …religion ….fear based” a woman sternly says to her friend as she exits the train.

That stuck with me.

“Religion …fear based” now, we can get into the truth that RELIGION is fear based but relationship is LOVE based….and what starts out as religion with law and order turns into relationship when we dig deeper and fall in Love with the God of the universe when are hearts are turned and all of a sudden we desire to please Him and live for Him above all. So why did her statement stand out? How much of our reason for our chastity fear based?

I don’t want a disease, I don’t want to get pregnant, I don’t want to be ashamed, I want everyone to know I’m a virgin and that’s what a young lady should be. I don’t want to be like her. What will my parents say? What would the church say?

Do you know what happens when that’s your sole reason for withholding? You don’t hold on. It’s so interesting that the people, who fear man most, fall the hardest. The fear of judgment begins not to matter anymore because you realized that you've based your sole purpose of staying on course on the options and expectations of man. SO you giving in to temptation because of curiosity or the realization that you’re human and being horny does not make you wrong but human, becomes anchor that sometimes drops down in the middle of no where.

At what point does you purity (mind, body, and soul) become MORE than religion, but relationship?

How much have you said no, not in fear of crotch rot but grieving God? Not in fear of people, but the truth that like a child who’s run away from home, your distance would hurt the God you serve.

Don’t get me wrong, FEAR is real. We know in scripture that it clearly states it is NOT of God. There’s the fear of reverence, that is very appropriate for this conversation, and then there’s the fear attached to punishment, superstition and/or tradition.

Which one are you allowing to make you whole?

I do fear God, I’m not going to lie that I know I’m but a breath and at any moment He could decide that Keoka’s time is DONE...”LIGHTS OUT BOO!” .lol. Im VERY aware of that reality and can positively say with no eloquent theological terms that ,that fear is true. However when I REALLY fell in love with the Lord the first go round, I was all in! Then when I fell in LOVE with my fiancé, I was and am STILL all in but I realized that what kept in regard to rules or religion when I first found out about dating and courtship is not in tandem with my love for the Lord making me understand a WHOLE lot more about being WHOLE.

What do they see when they look at us?Fear?When you look at you relationship with God and WHY you continue to hold on...by a thread or a rope(I KNOW it's tough) what is keeping your grip? Are you scared of the eyes that be or have you really gone past religion and said,” FATHER I'm all in because I love you not just because of consequences and people. Keep me even when I don't want to be kept"